That game it was military, only got 12k. I was also playing loose clusters. It's almost like a job playing out a game like that at gigantic.
I think the hard part is knowing how long to play the game. That game I just attacked the last 4 civs one after the other, and each of them surrendered quickly. So I didn't really allow the populations to all get to 15 or 25B, or sit and build ships. The game was getting tiresome. I'm probably going to either play gigantic/tight, or try huge/loose for awhile.
For me my scores are fairly consistent :
Soceity, 30-35k
Tech, 20-25k
Econ, 50-55k
Military 12k-30k
For abilities, I've found i like production. So i take industrialists, and :
+20 social
+20 military
+20 pop growth
(+25% morale, i love the Dregin for this...)
+20 economy.
sometimes soldiering with last point, and sometimes 30% pop growth.
I like production, because i find i generally can't spend money fast enough. Also production can't be improved in-game other than the tecs. I think this gets everything rolling for me pretty quickly. I sometimes win games just in the colonization phase by effeciently building colony ships.
I also set anomolies to uncommon. I'm not sure how this works out for the AI, but I get probably way more than they do, and there are not enough of them to fuel anyone with loads of money. Abundant just seems cheesy.