the resources of one solar system nearly die out, it seems to me it'd be exceedingly easy to justify an interstellar war.
yes, but how did you intend to answer the problem of excessive delay? if it takes 100-1000 years one way from system A to system B, how to wage a war? by the time a fleet arrived, it would be obsolete(as stated above) and nobody would be ready for planetary battle.
i'd wanted to come back to this. i indeed posed this challenge to my own imagination.
Ender's Game proposes an intersting model for sub-light interstellar war, but it still relied on instantaneous communication and remote piloting.
this might be a longer post, just to warn

i actually want to start with some of the circumstances that could lead to interstellar war.
as we've discussed before, the atmosphere of Mars is much thinner than that of the Earth. about 4 billion years ago, Mars lost its magnetosphere because its core cooled. the Earth's magnetic field is generated because its iron core is constantly churning, as Mars's did a long time ago. this will happen to the Earth one day too; it's believed that our core remains hot because of the energy created by a very large impact that also formed the moon.
that, i think wouldn't be enough in itself to abandon Sol. if we do indeed terraform Mars, i think one thing we'll need to do is learn to create an artificial magnetosphere. i imagine this could be achieved with a satellite network, but i don't know enough of the physics to be sure. if it is possible, then the same thing could be done to the Earth way down the line.
but that leads to another interesting point. i think it most likely that the Sol system would, at any given point, have access to the most advanced technologies. as the center of the Terran diaspora, it'd have the lowest average time to receive transmission from other human settlements, and its history wouldn't be perforated by hundreds or thousands of years of travel through interstellar space, and hundreds or thousands of years of development in a new star system.
still, i don't think war between stars will likely occur unless the potential gains would likely outweigh the costs and potential losses.
there are always freak accidents. at this point in history, we're afraid of a large comet hitting the Earth. but by the time we've got colonies, i think we'd be able to handle something like that, personally. do you?
but i'm going to up the ante. what would happen if a large rogue planet crashed into the sun? or something like that. i need an event that would leave the entire solar system nearly uninhabitable. a rogue planet in itself wouldn't do much to the sun. a small rocky planet would have about as much effect as a drop of acid on the pacific ocean's ph level. a large gas planet would add fuel to the fire. but it'd have to be several dozen jovian masses to make a noticeable effect, at least that's what i'm speculating. but remember, space is big. and unless it were actually aimed, i think it's very unlikely anything would crash right into the sun, or even be moving on the same solar axis. but a planet that massive getting caught in the sun's gravity field would seriously screw up the orbits of damn near everything in the solar system, even if it only passed through once.
keep in mind, this is our solar system i'm envisioning, the origin of humanity. i could imagine us having half a trillion people in the solar system eventually. definately not all on Earth. and on Earth, i think most of the population would be concentrated in massive megastructures in more desolate places.
imagine a golden age of humanity, so to speak. we face a crisis long before we go into space, caused by our own destruction of the environment in many ways, but we manage to come through the crucible, repair the environment as best we can, and give the surface and oceans back to Earth's other life forms. we move as much as we can into the rest of the solar system, and those who do stay on Earth have managed to reduce their 'environmental footprint' to nearly nothing. but it's this event that leads us to see ourselves moving out of the Sol system and colonizing new star systems - for curiosity and security of survival, for adventure and relief of the constant urge to reproduce. that, after all, is the golden rule of all living things, isn't it? don't get me wrong, i myself am a green-liberal type and believe we need to curb our population growth...
for now. but i'm a living breathing life form, and i want progeny!
i'm not trying to get into real politics of the present day by any means as an end in itself. i'm just trying to extrapolate from the present, and explaining how i see it to make my extrapolations clearer. i think eventually when technology and culture get to the point - for whatever reasons - that we can preserve the Earth's natural beauty, live elsewhere and believe we've got good lives, and perhaps even learn a thing or two and have some wild adventures - we'll absolutely do it. it'll probably take a whole helluva lot of bickering amongst ourselves, but there it is.
and here comes a rogue planet, alomst on the verge of being a brown dwarf, careeing into our home after millenea of prosperity, hundreds of colonies, and what we'd believed to be a point in history when our morals were finally clear and sympathetic to all and universally true, and our characters pure. we'd be able to detect something that big with our future technology a while before it hit us, it'd catch objects in the Ort cloud and Kupier belt, scattering comets and asteroids all throughout the system in wildly unpredictable trajectories. all of our space-bound infrastructure would be in supreme peril, all the populated planets and natural satellites might potentially have their orbits thrown off, might even be ejected from the system entirely, or crash into the sun, the rogue or one of the gas giants. we couldn't survive that... but we could flee... go somwhere rich. we are the progenitors of all humans, will we live as refugees, or will we retain our noble status? ethical dilemmas as we've never faced, but possibly even millions of years to prepare for what we decide...
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by the way, have any of you heard about
the gaping hole in the universe?
edit: actually,
this article's better.