Not sure if this is exactly you're problem... But not a lot of people have the game currently as it's not supposed to be released til Tuesday. I've seen a grand total of 2 games in the custom game list. Most of the time it's empty, also if you're searching for a game since there really isn't a lot of people that too could be why.

If that isn't what you're talking about then sorry...

http://forums.demigodthegame.com/345345

Here's a sticky post on connectivity, if you haven't already read it.

Nope, lack of games isn't what I'm talking about. I tried creating a custom game for my friend to join, he created one for me to join. Neither of us could connect to each other's games. I have no trouble at all with bittorrent applications, so its nothing with my isp blocking p2p. In fact I don't even need to configure my firewall to work with it. Yet for Demigod I can't seem to join any games(there were about 3 other custom games, other than mine, last night)

To be more specific, we are stuck on connection to players. It just hangs there.