patch and skirmish games....???

as the pantheon games are closed i can only speak about the skirmish games. before the patch i got lag maybe but mostly everything connectable, skirmish games always connectable but now since i updated today it is impossible for me to join a skirmish game. for example 3.5 hours waiting/connection time to get into ONE skirmish game with 3 player demigods in my team and NOT ONE (no bot or player) in the other game. so whats going on ?? even to usa i could connect before with acceptable pings and i got a cable isp 16mb.