if what you're doing isn't working.....try doing something different.
dont try to fight out numbered
dont play reg, tb, rook, qot or DA
dont let anyone on your team play reg, tb, rook, qot, or DA
play with at least one general.
furthremore, if someone asks you to do something/help with a demigod. respond, even if its NO you can at LEAST give them some info on whats going on in your head.
also, dont play with people who dont speak your language.